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Month: May, 2013

What Most Boys Want In A Girlfriend

by Thought Catalog

Thought Catalog

The world seems to think men are supposed to be assertive yet deferential, aloof yet emotionally supportive, a conversationalist but also a beast in the bedroom. Every time we speak to women, whether at a party, at work, or in the privacy of your thin-walled Greenpoint bedroom, we are expected to put on a perfect show: to be charming yet genuine, to draw you in, but not too hard or too fast. It seems like women are always complaining about men, because a irresolvable conundrum has been established: Be A Man but don’t be That Kind Of Guy. Desire us sexually, but not just for sex, treat us like an equal, but Take The Lead. It can sometimes seem like an impossible and tedious chore pleasing you.

For so much of our romantic life, we are treated like prizes. You brag about us to your girlfriends, you trawl our Facebook…

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How To Fall In Love With A Boy For The First Time

by Thought Catalog

Thought Catalog

Be in high school and be waiting for it. Tell your friends, tell your diary, and even tell your parents that you want somebody to love. Everyone will nod and understand. Listen to mopey music and mope until it happens.

Meet someone in the courtyard at school. He is beautiful and seventeen and might just work out. Your stomach will ache when you see him, just like the books and the songs said it would, and this elation will wash over you like a warm cloud. Run and tell your friends about it. Listen to happy songs and be happy.

Ask him out online. Be very nervous and think about the possibility of getting rejected. You don’t feel cute enough to be loved so you would understand if he said no way, Jose, and stopped talking to you. Luckily, this doesn’t happen and after a three-hour conversation on AIM, you…

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Things To Consider Before You Leave Them

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The first and most important thing, which, if the answer to is “no,” the rest of this is null and void: do you love this person? This does not mean: lust, attraction, rebound, love for the sake of being in love, love based around the physical and exterior, etc. Even if you think you love someone, ask yourself why you love them. That’s the key. Your motives for being with someone can help you identify the kind of love you have for them.

If you are in a serious relationship with someone, let’s say serious enough that you have a child with them, you have to consider your life without them, and what that will look like. Not the romanticized version where you’re free to find new love and all things are jolly and wonderful. The version where this person is dating other people, where someone else may be parenting…

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Things To Remember When You’re In A Relationship

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Thought Catalog

Remember your friends. Friendship is not a vase you can stick in a corner and dust off when you’re ready to use it—it’s a live thing that must be cared for, nourished. Whether you’re in a relationship for the next few months or the rest of your life, your friendships are important and necessary. They will keep you from spinning out of control in ways that your relationship can’t. Don’t neglect them or take advantage of them.

Don’t neglect or take advantage of your partner, either. Remember that they are a person with a family, a dream, a past. Let them be human and make the mistakes you’re both bound to repeat over and over again. Pick your battles. Let them have a bad day at work. Let them call you when they’re drunk. Let them pursue what’s important to them, even when it doesn’t include you.

Pursue what’s important…

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